Relationships
Relationships: The Secret to Happiness (That We’re All Getting Wrong)
Look at the places where people live the longest and happiest, Okinawa (Japan), Sardinia (Italy), Ikaria (Greece), Nicoya (Costa Rica), Loma Linda (California). These places are known as Blue Zone, and while they all have different diets, cultures, and lifestyles, they share one thing in common: strong, deep relationships.
Science proves it, relationships impact your happiness and longevity more than money, diet, or exercise. Yet, in today’s world, building meaningful relationships is harder than ever.
We All Know This… So Why Aren’t We Doing It?
Let’s be honest: most of us already know that the way we approach relationships isn’t working.
We’ve all seen it.
- Friends sitting together, but everyone is on their phone.
- Couples at dinner, but no one is talking.
- People swiping through dating apps, always looking for something “better.”
And then we wonder why we feel disconnected.
The Real Problem: Distraction Is Killing Connection
We live in a world of infinite options and infinite distractions. Social media, dating apps, and notifications are training our brains to constantly seek the next thing.
- Instead of focusing on one person, we compare them to hundreds of others online.
- Instead of being present, we’re scrolling through someone else’s life.
- Instead of building deep connections, we keep everything surface-level, afraid of missing out on something “better.”
But here’s the truth: real relationships require focus. And most people simply don’t have it anymore.
The Fix: Program Your Relationship Goals
In “Can’t Stop Me!”, I break this down in an entire chapter. The secret isn’t just knowing relationships are important. The secret is intentionally programming them into your life.
You do this by setting relationship goals, just like you set goals for your business, health, or finances.
Here’s how:
- Decide what relationships matter to you.
- Example: “I will spend every Friday with my closest friends.”
- Why? Because it gives me a sense of fulfillment, purpose, and connection.
- Make your relationship goals clear and specific.
- Example: “I will travel the world with my loved ones on December 20, 2027.”
- Why? Because it brings me closer to them, deepens our bond, and creates lifelong memories.
When you set a goal, your subconscious starts working to align your life around it. It stops being something you “should do” and becomes something you just do automatically.
Stop Fighting It, Start Reprogramming It
Right now, most people are trying to force themselves to build better relationships while their subconscious is pulling them in the opposite direction.
That’s why they keep failing.
The secret isn’t to fight distractions or force yourself to be present. The secret is to reprogram your subconscious so you don’t have to think about it at all.
Once you do that, you’ll start:
- Prioritizing the right people.
- Making time for real connection.
- Creating relationships that actually make you happy.
And the best part? You won’t have to force any of it. It’ll happen automatically, just like I teach in “Can’t Stop Me!”.